Social Media.Love It Or Hate It.

I love social media,I really do.I don’t know if that makes me nosey (probably) but I like to interact with various people about different things that might be happening in our lives,workplace or the rest of the world but it would seem that different people have different ideas about how they use it.
Facebook for most people would be the most obvious one,the problem starts when people in the workplace start adding each other as let’s face it,we don’t get on with everyone do we? So after adding a couple of people, you will definately get a friend request from someone you don’t like,and sometimes the feeling is mutual but because you have 15 mutual friends they feel that they have to add you even though you have never ever had a conversation,and in fact sometimes walk past each other with barely a “Hi.” So what do you do? Sometimes it’s just easier to add them as it seems a bit churlish not to but at the same time why add someone who has no interest in what’s going on in your life the same as you have absolutely no interest in theirs?
“Fakebook” is the place where everyone feels that they have to post a status about what a fabulous life they’re having,what they have for tea,how fantastic their relationship with their significant other is,and isn’t life great.But it’s also been good for reuniting old friends which has got to be a good thing.
Twitter is a different animal completely and I love it.It’s a place where you don’t know anyone,you can’t post long whinging self indulgent posts as it won’t let you,as 140 characters means it has to be short and sweet so that means twitter is very fast.You soon find a group of people who seem to respond to some of your tweets so yes,twitter does have a lot of cliques and sometimes that creates it’s own problems.If a couple of people follow you (and you them) a list of “people you might like to follow” will show up especially if a few of your followers follow each other.(keep up at the back) This is where it’s a bit like Facebook and so you will get a follow from someone who sees that some of their followers follow you, even though they’ve probably no interest of anything you tweet.For some people it’s a numbers game,they try to get as many followers as possible, with no intention of following back.
But here again on twitter some people don’t interact. I have “liked ” something  that someone I follow (and who follows me) has tweeted, I have commented on blogs I like, have replied to certain tweets,all with no reply. Thank god for the mute option and you can always unfollow.
Having said that I have had some great random  conversations with total strangers on twitter,and even though we haven’t met there are some lovely people I regularly interact with.(you know who you are).And I have to say that it just seems a bit more real on twitter as people don’t always tweet about how great their life is. So here’s a message to all the people who just read every post and never ever interact either on Facebook or twitter.It’s called social media,the clue is in the word “social”, which surely means interaction.Try it,you might like it.

Someone’s Swimming In That Egyptian River.

Having got back from holiday there were loads of emails to catch up on and a few notifications from twitter including a new follower “M”. Looking at his account he seemed ok so I followed him back. Within five minutes he was starting a conversation which ended with both of us agreeing to meet up for coffee the next day, not my usual style of doing things but I thought why not? He wasn’t bad looking. had a head full of hair but I must admit I did think he looked gay on one of his pics but as flatmate wasn’t around to ask I pushed that thought away.
At the time ┬áthere were no pictures of me on Twitter and ┬áso he had no idea what I looked like but I spotted him straight away as the tram was coming to a stop. As we were walking along he was chatting away and literally name dropped in the first five minutes…not impressed. By the time we’d sat down and ordered, I’d found out that he’d been married twice but has no contact with either of his ex wives which is quite strange. He was really easy to talk to and apart from him asking a couple of questions I was happy to listen to him talking about himself because it was becoming more and more apparent that this man was definitely gay. Most of his conversation was about women and how they all loved him as he paid attention to when they had their hair different, changed their make up and listened to them go on about their boyfriends/husbands and every now and then he would give me what I can only describe as his “showbiz smile” it was so fake and a bit creepy to be honest but by now I knew I wouldn’t be seeing him again. We said our goodbyes but then a couple of days later he phoned me.
He said that he’d been in Tesco the previous day and after helping an old lady pack her bags (who he didn’t know) a gorgeous woman (well she’d have to be wouldn’t she) came up to him and threw her arms around him and gave him a big kiss for “being so nice” and no she didn’t know the old lady either. I tried not to make it obvious that I didn’t believe a word of it but then he carried on with his second story. Apparently as he’s starting his own business he’d been advertising for a sales person and he’d just interviewed this fabulous woman with legs up to her armpits, short skirt on, low cut top and (get this) he said as he could see her lacy bra through her top she was probably a 36 E cup. Oh, and she has her own business. I couldn’t help it.”So this woman with her own successful business, wants to come and work for you because?” He could tell I wasn’t buying any of it so retaliated.”I’ll be paying her twice the going rate and she’ll get a great bonus every month. Got to go now I’ll phone you in about a week”. Make it a year M.
After we’d hung up I went on to his twitter account and realised that nearly all the people he follows are women. Gay or straight that’s a bit weird but I did remember that he said one of the reasons he doesn’t speak to his second ex wife is because she posted on Facebook that she’d just wasted 5 years of her life with a gay husband, think that says it all.