Let’s Go Round Again, One More Time.

It’s fair to say that some people have such a good time on the roller coaster of love that they want to do it more than once, with disastrous results. Not a problem when you’re young, no children and no mortgage but it tends to get a bit messy when other factors are involved, namely a second or third marriage.¬†Obviously¬†no-one gets married to get divorced and as we all know there’s quite a high percentage of divorces and I don’t know about you but I must admit I’m a bit wary of getting re-married (to anyone) but that doesn’t seem to deter some people, optimistic or just tunnel vision I’m not sure but let’s consider this.
A guy’s come out of his first marriage and he’s had a couple of kids and he’s late 30’s/early 40’s.
He then meets someone a few years younger than himself who’s also been married but she has no children. He’s not actually keen to have any more children but his shiny bright new toy has a biological clock ticking away inside, (who’d have thought?) maybe they’ve had a conversation about children and maybe he’s just hoping she’ll eventually go off the idea. Fat chance. After his divorce settlement he’s managed to buy a modest terrace house, but he’s still paying maintenance towards his children, his new girlfriend also has her own house but quite a way from where he lives but it’s not a problem as they don’t live together. Until she gets pregnant and wants “T” to move in with her. So the short drive to work is now going to be a long one but hey, he doesn’t mind as they’re both happy and that’s all that counts right? His children aren’t happy about the new addition but he’s hoping they’ll get used to it.
After a few years of wedded bliss it’s all over and he’s back on POF with a couple of added complications so by the time I meet him he’s not in the best situation. He’s had to sell his house to pay her off and he’s now paying maintenance for the second lot of children. First lot are at Uni so he’ll be paying out a bit for those as well. He’s now in rented accommodation and instead of maybe taking it a bit easier at work he’s having to work harder just to pay the bills. Not exactly an attractive proposition is it? Believe it or not this is quite common, a lot of older 50 plus guys have young children, not for me I’m afraid.
.Having said that though that scenario might still be a better date than this guy.”P” and I exchanged a few messages when he asked me out on a Saturday night.He was going to pick his dream car up which was a Bentley Continental (whatever that is) and he offered to pick me up in it.I must admit I was really tempted but then I had to refuse as I don’t get into a car with someone I don’t know. We made arrangements to meet in town but later in the afternoon he sent me a message. “Sorry I’ll have to cancel, I forgot I’d already asked my ex-neighbour and I was still drunk when I asked you out”. And no. I’ve not heard anything since.