Just A Normal Night In The Club.

We’ve all seen them, the weekend millionaires. The large group of young men sat around the bottle of Grey Goose vodka that they’ve all chipped in a couple of quid to buy. But sometimes they might like to mix it up a bit and instead of frequenting the latest expensive watering hole, they go to a strip club instead hoping to impress some of the girls who actually work there.
These are the main type of customers in the club at weekend, dancing around with their man bags, going on about how much money they have and how they can take you away from all this. It’s a shame they can’t pay you for a dance but they’ve just bought a new car/holiday/apartment and is it really £10?? Along with these wannabees will be the usual stag parties and you can bet that more than one guy about to make a lifelong commitment to his lovely partner, will get a bit giddy and proposition one or two of the girls in the club.
The same can be said for the older businessmen who come in with clients, hoping to impress them by knowing each girl by name and maybe he’s hoping the £100 he’s going to spend on having a champagne booth for an hour can be claimed back on expenses. But in the meantime he’s not actually sure that the money is in the bank he’s about to spend on his card. And let’s not forget all the married men who come in for whatever reason. Some girls know every single thing about a guy’s marriage, good and bad, while others of course come in more than once a week and like to spend their money on a favourite girl. Either way,their wife isn’t going to be too happy when she finds out.
But the ones to watch are the ones who really believe that they’re in with a chance. These are the guys who probably don’t like to hear a refusal and won’t be put off by the fact that you have a partner.They really do think that they can make your life better if only you were with them so it’s a good job that the house rules means he can’t touch you.
This is just a normal night in the club, where the girls work and earn a living and contrary to popular belief they don’t need help, or saving from themselves,or an intervention from God and they are certainly not being taken advantage of. These girls would rather do this job a few nights a week and live a comfortable life thank you than work 6 days a week for minimum wage, but it’s other people’s perception of what they think you are that becomes the problem.
Women react in one of two ways. They’re either ok with it or they think you’re some sort of prostitute as there is still a stigma attached to being a stripper. Some people might actually treat you as some sort of celebrity only to turn against you at some point (what’s that all about?)
Guys are usually really excited about dating a stripper until the novelty wears off after a few weeks and the jealousy creeps in.What’s that age old adage,”The thing that attracts you to someone is the very thing that you end up hating about them.” And that is so true in any relationship.
And now that Barbie’s getting on a bit I can’t see it as her next career move somehow.


Let’s Go Round Again, One More Time.

It’s fair to say that some people have such a good time on the roller coaster of love that they want to do it more than once, with disastrous results. Not a problem when you’re young, no children and no mortgage but it tends to get a bit messy when other factors are involved, namely a second or third marriage. Obviously no-one gets married to get divorced and as we all know there’s quite a high percentage of divorces and I don’t know about you but I must admit I’m a bit wary of getting re-married (to anyone) but that doesn’t seem to deter some people, optimistic or just tunnel vision I’m not sure but let’s consider this.
A guy’s come out of his first marriage and he’s had a couple of kids and he’s late 30’s/early 40’s.
He then meets someone a few years younger than himself who’s also been married but she has no children. He’s not actually keen to have any more children but his shiny bright new toy has a biological clock ticking away inside, (who’d have thought?) maybe they’ve had a conversation about children and maybe he’s just hoping she’ll eventually go off the idea. Fat chance. After his divorce settlement he’s managed to buy a modest terrace house, but he’s still paying maintenance towards his children, his new girlfriend also has her own house but quite a way from where he lives but it’s not a problem as they don’t live together. Until she gets pregnant and wants “T” to move in with her. So the short drive to work is now going to be a long one but hey, he doesn’t mind as they’re both happy and that’s all that counts right? His children aren’t happy about the new addition but he’s hoping they’ll get used to it.
After a few years of wedded bliss it’s all over and he’s back on POF with a couple of added complications so by the time I meet him he’s not in the best situation. He’s had to sell his house to pay her off and he’s now paying maintenance for the second lot of children. First lot are at Uni so he’ll be paying out a bit for those as well. He’s now in rented accommodation and instead of maybe taking it a bit easier at work he’s having to work harder just to pay the bills. Not exactly an attractive proposition is it? Believe it or not this is quite common, a lot of older 50 plus guys have young children, not for me I’m afraid.
.Having said that though that scenario might still be a better date than this guy.”P” and I exchanged a few messages when he asked me out on a Saturday night.He was going to pick his dream car up which was a Bentley Continental (whatever that is) and he offered to pick me up in it.I must admit I was really tempted but then I had to refuse as I don’t get into a car with someone I don’t know. We made arrangements to meet in town but later in the afternoon he sent me a message. “Sorry I’ll have to cancel, I forgot I’d already asked my ex-neighbour and I was still drunk when I asked you out”. And no. I’ve not heard anything since.